Welcome to my farewell party. This is the first one ever for me. Thanks, to you guys who wanted to surprise me. Thank you to my dear students. I hope you will do these dances I taught, in different occasions of your life, and feel like a Bollywood queen because that’s what I wanted to make happen for you guys.
I hate farewells; usually farewells make everyone sad. The person who is leaving, as well as his or her friends. So I always ran away from my friends without saying a farewell to them. But somehow I felt I wanted this farewell. And I know there is a purpose that will be fulfilled. So this farewell will not make us sad.
Not very long ago, I came here as a chirpy bird full of hope and excitement for a new beginning in Eindhoven. But soon I became angry, frustrated and lonely. I looked for support from my husband, but soon realized how much of my support he actually needed. I was an empty well, of empty days spent doing house chores, job applications, interviews that ended in rejection and hanging out with friends that could not empathize with me.
So how could I give the water of comfort, hope, cheerfulness to him? I knew that there had to be a source of the positive energy, empathy and support that I needed to stand completely on my own, so that I could then support him.
Like a heart’s prayer answered, I became a part of a group of beautiful hearted ladies. And the simple things we did together healed me. Outwardly we were cooking, shopping, and visiting places together; and on the inside it was curing me of all my pains. I think it is the genuine affection we get from each other that acts like a healing balm.
Slowly, I got the strength to take one step ahead and to make a mark in this foreign land with my passion: dancing. Starting and finishing 3 batches gave me immense satisfaction and improved my entrepreneurial qualities. I was becoming better in my interviews not coz I was studying more but simply coz I was settling in and was getting more confident with the practicalities of the place.
Then there was so much I could learn from the wonderful ladies going through different situations in life. With all these empathic ladies we can have such valuable connections, that it feels like you are in a wonderland; where, what you were lacking, you get. You just have to figure out a way.
So today, I am a much more emotionally stronger woman, one who can pursue her dreams on her own and also supports her husband a little better. I would like to use this opportunity, where we have come together to bid me a farewell, to let you know that, yes, whatever you are facing can be very difficult: a new land, a new culture, new professional roadblocks, babies, no family or close friends & a very busy husbands. But just knowing that you are not alone is the first step towards redemption.
And please don’t stay too much at home. Come out and meet these wonderful, beautiful ladies. Do things together. Go places together. Make connections that are valuable to you. Go behind your passions; chase and hunt them down – and you will be better, stronger and not afraid, because of it. And that’s when your husbands can start depending on you.
With this I would like to acknowledge the mother bird who made this nest for us, where we chi-chat and do much more. The one loved by us all so dearly that the sight of her makes you miss home a little less each day. Because you know she can make it okay for you. And she does!